The chats which dated as far back as 2015 (3year ago) saw Shola literally begging Wizkid to see his kid.
Lots of people have come out to openly castigate Wizkid, labeling him a deadbeat father for not always not showing up for his son. But one thing we have all failed to really realize is that reading critically through those chats you would realise that Shola had succeeded in painting Wizkid the villain while she becomes the hero which is not totally true on many fronts.
An instagram based news medium took a second look at those chats and after sampling several opinions came up with some points that might have been overlooked by social media commentators.
Here are 10 reasons by that actually proves that Wizkid isn’t as bad as he had been painted to be.
1. Shola Needed Wizkid’s Attention and He Seem “Done” Giving It To her!!
If you read closely inbetween those chats you would realise that Shola needed Wizzy’s attention, besides which woman wouldn’t want her superstar babydaddy’s attention and too often in those chats bringing up Tife was just the perfect excuse to get his attention. Many of those times (not all though) Tife didn’t want to facetime him, Shola wanted too. While Wizzy didn’t have any of his attention to spare for Shola.
2. “She is not after his money”, because Wizkid never defaulted on paying his kid’s bill and catering for her!!
Shola began all this chronicle by tweeting that she wasnt a money hungry “hoe” and wasn’t after Wizkid’s money cos she had her’s. Well that’s not totally true cos from the chats Wizkid didn’t default in paying his kids bills and catering for her either. Yes he delayed but didn’t default. One thing we must realize is that often times once the love between a babydady and his babymama wanes off, her financial responsibility no longer matters to him. But notwithstanding Wizkid still pays her bills and caters for her and his kid. Cos of he sure did, then Shola wouldn’t hesitated spilling it on those chats.
3. Shola Used to Curse Wizzy and Talk Crazy To Him!!!
After reading several testimonies from men, I have come to realise that of the things that could make a man lose his love for a woman is when she constantly curses him or talk crazy to him. Men love their ego intact and cherish respect, so the moment you begin to curse him, that’s the day his love for you begins to wane. Wizzy had expressly reminded her in their December, 2015 chat of how she used to curse him and talk crazy to him. Wizkid could be right cos afterall she didn’t deny it when he said so. He further repeated it in their March 5th 2016 conversation that she was fond of cursing him and she didn’t deny it then either. Looking further at their chats, Shola flared up and bombarded Wizkid with messages that had anger written all over it after messaging Wizzy without getting a response from him (guess she had learned to stop cursing him).
4. Wizzy Thinks Shola is Seeing Other Men at the Expense of Their Son!!
Yo! Even Shola said so herself that Wizzy kept asking who she was seeing and who her boyfriend is (remember she didn’t deny having any either). Well Wizkid thinks Shola is seeing other men, which at this point shouldn’t be any of Wizkid’s business though, but at the expense of his kid? Man got to be worried. Which makes it a 50/50 thingy!
5. Wizkid severally asked to see his son!!
Yes I wouldn’t want to enoxerate Wizkid of the days he promised to come pick his son but didn’t, but from some sections of the chats it proved that Wizkid also asked to see his son. Not just wanting to see his kid, he made efforts to send some come pick him up on occasions. He also wanted to facetime with him. Sadly most of the time he asked to facetime with Tife, Shola said Tife was already asleep. Not once and not twice. From the chats he never complained nor made a fuss about it.
6. He still pays his sons school fees and gets him the necessary things he needs!!
Wizkid might be a “deadbeat” father as Shola had alleged but he never stopped catering for Tife financially. I searched over an over the chats looking for where Wizkid had possibly not meet up with Tife’s school fees or probably some financial needs. But none!! In fact in the chats, Shola had repeatedly thanked him for sending Tife’s school fees on time.
7. She Betrayed Wizkids Trust years after saying she wouldn’t!!
In their chat of March 2016, Wizzy had explicitly told her “to go the blogs to get her consent letter” since she was bent on getting the consent letter from him at all cost and she went back and forth on how she didn’t go to the blogs years ago and she wasn’t going to the blogs.. But here we are in 2018 reading their chats!! Who betrayed who?
8. The Chats Were Doctored!!
Need I also remind you that the chats were also doctored as some part of the chats were removed! Not talking about the parts were her name or address were covered oh! Am taking about been removed totally. Some of the chats had dates appearing on messages (not on top of the message but actually covering last of the message) which is unlikely of messaging apps. Wouldn’t want to digress into that.
9. Shola “never” made attempts to straighten the issue out with Wizkid!!
It wouldn’t be out of place to say that Shola never made an attempt to straighten the issue out with Wizkid or his family (talking about him not having time for his kid) cos if she sure did, then it would had appeared some where in those chats. If we were to overlook the rants of the first babymama cos she had no one to report Wizkid to since she wasn’t based in Nigeria, what about Shola who had unfiltered access to his family?
10. Reason for Releasing the Chats??
Why release a 2016 chat in 2018?? Why the long wait, well Shola has come to realize that there is no shred of love remaining between herself and Wizkid which prompted the release of the chats. Wizkid is all over Zion and his mama. Coupled with the fact that Zion’s mom had requested a meet-up between Zion and Tife. All these coicidenced and became the last straw to break the Carmel’s back.
1. Don’t love a kid more than the others. You fathered them all.. Love them equally
2. Don’t transfer the hate of a baby mama on the baby.
3. Make out time for your kids.
Just Wondering:- Who digs out chats of over 3years ago with their babydaddy or babymama, if he /she wasn’t intentionally saving it up for this?
Moral: You can’t force a man to take up his responsibilities and coming to castigate him publicly as a means of trying to compell him into doing what’s right would only make matters worse cos most men hate to be compelled.