Being a side-chick is one of the most time-wasting things ever. You find yourself being devoted to someone who already has a main woman he’s planning to build a future with.
Since guys will often not be honest with you, you should definitely watch out for these signs you’re a side-chick.
1. YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO CALL AT CERTAIN TIMES
At first, you may feel excited that your man insists on being the one to always do the calling. He may even give you seemingly good reasons why you shouldn’t call at so and so time. But no one is really that busy that they won’t want to hear from the girl they like a couple of minutes in a day. If he tells you that you’re not to call him at certain times, or he wants to always be the one doing the calling, it could be one of the signs you’re a side-chick.
2. HE IS FUNNY ABOUT CALLS WHILE IN YOUR PRESENCE
When you hang out together, you may begin to notice that he avoids picking some calls, or would pick them privately. He will probably come up with different excused but if this happens constantly then you should be suspicious.
3. HE ALWAYS HAS A ‘CRAZY EX’
Perhaps you checked his phone and see a random person sending suggestive messages. Your guy may insist she’s some crazy ex who is still into him. The truth is, if someone keeps bothering him, it’s only because he encourages it. So seeing the same person message or call him all the time could be one of the signs you’re a side-chick.
4. YOU DON’T GET THE IMPORTANT HOLIDAYS
You celebrate Valentine’s day on February 15th or Christmas Day on 25th or 26th. When he is somehow unable to make time for you on the actual holiday, it may be because he saves those days for his main chick.
5. HE BUYS YOU STUFF TO KEEP YOU HAPPY.
Hush gifts are things he buys for you when you start talking about serious stuff, like moving in together, committing, or spending time with his family, and an argument sparks. Because he wants to keep you as his side chick, he finds your material weakness and plays on that to stray you away from the serious topics and also to keep you around.
6. YOU’RE NEVER INVITED TO STAY THE NIGHT AFTER SEX.
As couples get more comfortable with each other, they tend to stay over at one another’s place after sex. However, if he leaves your apartment in the middle of the night, or makes sure you never stay over at his place, this is a definite red flag. Also, keep in mind, if he has a family or “main chick”, staying until dawn will never be an option.
7. HE REFUSES TO SHOW AFFECTION IN PUBLIC.
PDA should never be an issue in any relationship, so long as it’s within reason. But if you go to grab his hand and he pulls his away, or you never kiss or get too close when you’re out together, this could be a sign that you’re a side chick. This also gives him room to lie to his “main chick” about who you are if you two happen to be seen.
8. HE DODGES EVERY PHOTO OPPORTUNITY.
Everyone is on Facebook and Instagram posting their food, kids, and significant others. Snapchat and Oovoo also make every day a motion picture production. So if you notice that your guy is dodging selfies like bullets whenever you tilt your phone to take a picture, you may be a side chick.
9. HE PREFERS TO STAY IN WHEN YOU’RE TOGETHER.
If your guy always strays away from going out or always wants to just come to your place to hang out, this is a major side chick indicator. There’s a difference between a guy being a homebody and trying to be sneaky with your relationship. Every couple has dinner at restaurants or goes on movie dates from time to time.
10. YOU’RE NEVER INVITED TO FAMILY GATHERINGS.
If you have never met a guy’s parents and children or haven’t been to any events that include his friends, this is another side chick indicator.
11. HE HAS TO GO SUDDENLY WHENEVER YOU’RE ON THE PHONE.
When you speak to your guy on the phone, if he speaks to you in a very formal tone without even addressing you by name more often than not, that’s a definite sign you are a side chick. If he’s always gotta go suddenly or straight up hangs up on you out of nowhere from time to time, that’s probably because his actual girlfriend got home.
Do you know of other signs you’re a side-chick? Be sure to comment below.